Wednesday, February 23, 2005
Lonely in loveYou can feel cut off from the world
When you commit yourself to your partner and your relationship, your life changes and as far as social contact goes, that shift is often for the worse.
Perhaps being a couple means you've cut yourself off from friends or family. Spending time with your partner seemed so important that everyone else in your life took a back seat.You can feel emotionally cut offIt's particularly dangerous because within any relationship, there's a natural move towards separation. This sounds strange as surely love brings you together?
But actually, once you commit yourselves, you spend more time apart. The first excitement's died and other things, like work and children, are more demanding. Even when you are together, you may not feel happy. Almost every couple hits problems when they start to build a committed relationship. You're different people, with different needs and it's a challenging tightrope to stay happy and fulfilled.
And, because you've always expected fulfilment, you may feel like a hopeless failure. At least when you are single, you can look forward to the companionship of love. When you're in a relationship and you're lonely, you ask yourself 'is this it?'
*pr0miise mii ; to holdd mii titee -
